I watched a video yesterday of a woman giving advice to other women about dating Nigerian men, and although it made me laugh, it also made me realize that there are women who are genuinely interested in the Nigerian dating scene. So, I decided to share some tips to help these women navigate the unique aspects of Nigerian dating culture.
Ah, dating in Nigeria – where you can find love, trouble or both! Nigeria’s dating scene is a unique mix of enjoyment and suffering, so it’s important to understand the cultural aspects of dating in Nigeria before you jump in. It’s not all ‘Simon and Porsha’ or ‘Ling and Lamb.’ From the influence of family, gender roles, tradition, and religion to the impact of social media, sugar daddies, yahoo boys, and runs girls, we’ll explore everything you need to know to successfully navigate the Nigerian dating scene.
First, it’s important to understand that many Nigerian men have traditional values that they won’t compromise. While there are liberal and open-minded Nigerian men, don’t expect to change a traditional man’s mindset. This doesn’t make them bad people – it’s just part of their culture.
Family plays a big role in Nigerian dating – for good or bad. You’ll need to meet your partner’s family and show respect and good manners. Religion is also crucial, especially for Muslims and Christians, and your partner may want you to share their faith. It is really important to be yourself and not pretend to be someone else because this will help you avoid any problems in the future when you can no longer maintain the facade.
While beauty is a really big thing in the Nigerian dating culture, you should avoid succumbing to plastic surgery pressure. Being a ‘BBL baddie’ doesn’t mean much in a long-term relationship with a Nigerian man and ‘being plastic’ is often frowned upon. Character still remains vital, so be discerning in relationships, just like Nigerian men are.
Also, while it’s tempting to indulge in the fast life, it’s best to steer clear of yahoo boys and sugar daddies – they usually bring nothing but trouble to the table. Yahoo boys are flashy young men who engage in fraudulent activities online, aka scammers, while sugar daddies are older, usually married men who provide financial support to younger women in exchange for companionship or sexual favors.
While some women may be attracted to these men because of their perceived wealth and social status, this can lead to unhealthy relationships where the woman is abused, exploited or pressured into doing things she may not want to do. Don’t sell yourself short, ladies, and maintain a moral compass and self-respect. Not every man deserves your energy, period.
Another challenge in the Nigerian dating scene is runs girls, who engage in transactional sex in exchange for money or material goods. They are often viewed as promiscuous and morally loose, leading to damaging stereotypes and the commodification of women. This trend has contributed to the erosion of trust and commitment in relationships, leading to greed, hyper-vigilance and heightened insecurity.
The presence of runs girls in the dating scene has led to a shift in societal norms and values, particularly regarding sexual behavior and morality. Some young people see this as a way to make quick money or gain status and validation, resulting in a rise in the number of young girls and women engaging in transactional sex, as well as sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.
This trend has also contributed to the objectification of women, as they are viewed as a means to an end rather than as human beings deserving of respect and dignity. Many women who are successful in business or career have had their success be attributed to “runs.” In addition, women often have to first fight moral stereotypes before they begin the actual search and fierce competition for a partner.
Another factor that influences dating culture in Nigeria is social media. Social media has made it easier to meet and interact with people from different backgrounds and locations, but it has also brought negative influences to the Nigerian dating scene, such as the pressure to conform to certain beauty standards or present oneself in a specific way. It can lead to unrealistic expectations and false presentations. Be honest about your feelings, intentions, and expectations, and take your time to get to know someone before committing. Make sure you don’t rush into anything – you never know who is crazy, a criminal, or criminally insane.
For those of you looking for love in Nigeria, it’s more than just a romantic feeling. It’s tough, especially with people that can be set in their ways. You need to build trust, friendship, commitment, and great communication. It’s a jungle out here.
Dating in Nigeria can turn a saint into a sinner, but with the right mindset and understanding of the culture, you can find love that lasts. Focus on building meaningful relationships based on mutual respect. Most of all, don’t fall for the societal pressures put on dating. Make sure you do what works for you.
With these tips, you should be well on your way to navigating the complex and exciting world of Nigerian dating with confidence and style. Don’t forget, people lie. Shine ya eye.